For example, if Vanhanen and Lynn say IQ is genetic, you feel the most appropriate thing to do is not attack them for being racists, but simply examine their data and conclusions dispassionately. But not dismiss it simply on the basis that it doesn’t agree with our what we feel is morally right. Can you provide another reference that discusses the DNA tracing and IQ correlation of the various crosses?
Once I understood that, if I disagreed, then I could disagree in a way that I think is actually productive.
We talked about some of his views on two subjects—race and women. Well, you need to know what they are before you decide.
" Perhaps it was the fact that he seemed genuinely interested in me and what I had to say. In the stories, there was always a wide-eyed girl and a brooding man who turned to each other in the records store and said, "Wow, I thought no one else liked this! I have a horror of routine." Byron never asked about my own dreams or aspirations. I remember sometimes feeling like a fan standing at the back of a crowd, cheering on a man who never returned the favor. He genuinely enjoyed that I liked to dress up and go out dancing, though he didn't. When I had been with Byron, I shone a little less brightly because he captured all the light in the room. I look at my friends, and I see them dating Byrons.
When I met him in person, he was just as likable as I had thought. " texts every morning, because he didn't have a predictable bone in his body. In retrospect, it's easy to see that my dream man was an adolescent fantasy. " Romance was presented in these narratives as a thrilling, scientifically implausible series of events, in which neither party ever had to compromise and do something they didn't like. He'd disappear for a couple of days, then call me in the middle of the night and say, "I'm coming over. In his dark moments, he refused to tell me what was bothering him. Unlike Byron, he never withheld admiration; he was never detached or aloof. My girlfriends are wonderful, warm, successful women.
More importantly, I thought, his personality was completely different from mine. When he began messaging me, I discovered he wasn't. About two years before I met Evan, I'd met my dream man — the Byron I'd longed for. I no longer saved the affectionate texts he sent me, because I knew there would be many more to follow.
I flattered myself that my bio was wry and darkly humorous. Evan was exactly as his bio presented him: a man in his late 20s who was enthusiastic about the world. He asked me lots of questions about myself and told me things about himself in return. As the days went on, I wondered why I didn't unmatch him. It was at a mutual friend's house that he whispered to me, "If you're as bored as I am, let's get out of here." I'd only met him half an hour ago, so I hesitated a second before his challenging gaze. He didn't watch sports, so I never had to read a book while he watched games. The more dates we went on (he always called them "dates"; he never referred to our time together as "hanging out"), the more I understood how rare that was. He didn't keep me hungry for validation, or throw out vague, beautiful statements like, "Maybe you could be the girl to ruin my life." Evan wasn't shy about admitting that he had loved other women, committed to other women. Yes, we were very different, but I came to enjoy that difference.
You may find this to be a useful reference on the intelligence front: https://lesacreduprintemps19.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/Let me see if I’ve captured your overall approach.
You feel it’s important to examine and conduct science without regard to political correctness. Try to falsify, as we do with any other scientific claim. Science and history and logic exist regardless of whether we are happy about them or not. It appears the Lynn & Vanhanen book suggests the genetic IQ differences were caused, not by Homo crosses, but by natural selection operating in colder climates over long periods of time.
They are drawn to Byron's emotional unavailability because of the plethora of cultural messages that tell them Byron can change, and that he will change for them. When Evan had to move away for work, he handled it with the same grace that he had always displayed in our relationship. What Evan taught me during our time together was that I was asking all the wrong questions of potential romantic partners.